Lie to me
I just listened to a song which has this line: " lie to me, if the truth is gonna hurt" and I often times hear the guys say: "ladies don't like to be told the truth, they want the lies because if you say the truth they will get mad" and I even hear the ladies be like: " I want to hear the truth" but right inside they are scared of how much the truth will hurt, hear the children saying: " dad can't find out the truth, we have to lie so he won't beat us up, and the parents too in an attempt to keep things secret will end up lying to the children.
a.Love the Lord thy God
b. Love your neighbours
And to do these, if you say you love your neighbours, if you love God and you really love them, trust me you won't lie to them. Opps!! Don't forget, Jesus really said: " I am the way, THE TRUTH and the life, no man cometh to the father except by me. And if you go through the bible, you see these words.... Verily verily( truly, truly) , the words of truth etc. Thus leaving a yardstick for truth. What if this Supreme God should ever lie, would your trust still remain in him??.
Relationship is defined as:
a. The way in which two people, group or countries behave towards each other or deal with each other.
b. A loving and/or sexual relationship between two people.
c. The way in which two or more things are connected
d. The way in which a person is related to somebody else in a family.
From all these definition, we can all agreed that relationship cut across everyone, family members, friends, besties, couples, countries, etc.
We live in a world where lies is the order of the day, if we are not lying to cover an offence, we lie to get a grant, or lie to keep someone, or lie so you won't hurt someone's feelings or worst of all lie to protect your selfish interest.
I've listened to some young minds or even older ones talk, especially between a ladies and her man, when the ladies says.... He has been lying to me all these while, or a lady's man says: she has been lying to me all these while... Then I hear curses erupt, some form of argument....then hearts are broken and regrets just feels the room till it get too stuffy for them so the part ways..... Too late. I've listened to a conversation between a father ad his son/ daughter and the son lies to him about everything in order to escape from his father's wrath,.... Lolz. Like my father will always say: sin begats sin. Example: Lucas asks his father for money, telling him that the money is to be used for his school fees, but having an intention to use it for something else which he did; two months later he really needed money to pay his fees and couldn't ask his father so he stole from him instead: remember..... Sin begats sin. His father finds out about the missing money and asked him.... He bluntly said he doesn't even know his dad got money around. Wow!! Lucus has successfully put himself into much trouble, now my question is: what stopped him from stating his real mission in the first place??.
Hear me folks, you could be so successful in lying, you could even get an award for being able to sustain your relationship with your parents, friends or spouse for a very long time but lemme ask you this: do you know what trust is all about??.
Trust according to my dictionary is the belief that somebody/ something is good, sincere and honest and will not try to harm or trick you...... I'm smiling... It's as though the dictionary just decided to favour me because its mine, maybe you should check your dictionary if it actually support your lies.
Now tell me, how could you ever say these..... Can my dad just trust me for once?, could my wife just trust me and stop suspecting my every moves?, can my fiance or fiancee just trust me?... Hahhaahhahhahaahhaha how is that possible when you've been lying to him/ her, lying to mum and dad, how will you even trust yourself, you might even start disbelieving yourself and just have a feeling the other person doesn't trust you.
You might be tempted to ask me at this point..... If I tell him/her/ them the truth won't they be mad at me? Won't they loss their trust in me?, won't it make me feel weak?, now my answer as a typical African who answer questions with questions is...... If he/ she/ they finds out the truth after much covering of lies with other lies, won't it hurt then more?, won't it make the degree of anger greater? Won't questions like... Why didn't you tell me the truth be asked? And then you will start hearing .... If you had told me, I would have forgiven you, I should have given you the money, you didn't have to lie for it, and worst of all is when you hear, you have ruined everything, I've lost my trust in you. There you see marriages broken, friendship broken, family relationship and love shattered.
I'm speaking as a young lady, I prefer you hurt me with the truth, than cook up some lies to keep me calm and under your charm.
Another aspect is addressed to parents, parents who try to hide things from their children ( especially useful information), sometimes the children hear about those things from others and when they ask, you gather the guts to still lie to them about it...... I'm sorry to say this, I know it hurts you so badly but trust me..... The more you hide it, the farther we are from believing it, the more upset we tend to get and the more we loss our trust for you. All what I'm trying to say is the truth will save us all.
Now let me give you some tips, that moment where the lie is almost slipping from your lips,just think about how sweet it seems to taste, how quick it seem to come out and also try to figure out how happy, fulfilled, peaceful and relieved you will be after saying the truth even if it's going to involve the use of the words I'M SORRY.
The best is abstinence, abstain from actions that will get you into lying, if going out at odd hours or staying out would make you lie, then don't go out. If cheating is gonna make you lie, then don't cheat, if greed is gonna make you lie... Don't be covetous by doing these you save yourself the stress of lying and losing the trust you so crave to gain.
Just remember that everyone wants the truth from you and sometimes accept your lies because they feel they trust you to be sincere and honest.... Please don't break their trust with those lies.
Be truthful to me!!
Then when the lies have all been told and maybe kept long.... For over years... And one day the truth leaks out..... Boom!! There's the bomb.
Biblically, looking back to the old testament, the ten commandments where basically divided into two which are:a.Love the Lord thy God
b. Love your neighbours
And to do these, if you say you love your neighbours, if you love God and you really love them, trust me you won't lie to them. Opps!! Don't forget, Jesus really said: " I am the way, THE TRUTH and the life, no man cometh to the father except by me. And if you go through the bible, you see these words.... Verily verily( truly, truly) , the words of truth etc. Thus leaving a yardstick for truth. What if this Supreme God should ever lie, would your trust still remain in him??.
Relationship is defined as:
a. The way in which two people, group or countries behave towards each other or deal with each other.
b. A loving and/or sexual relationship between two people.
c. The way in which two or more things are connected
d. The way in which a person is related to somebody else in a family.
From all these definition, we can all agreed that relationship cut across everyone, family members, friends, besties, couples, countries, etc.
We live in a world where lies is the order of the day, if we are not lying to cover an offence, we lie to get a grant, or lie to keep someone, or lie so you won't hurt someone's feelings or worst of all lie to protect your selfish interest.
I've listened to some young minds or even older ones talk, especially between a ladies and her man, when the ladies says.... He has been lying to me all these while, or a lady's man says: she has been lying to me all these while... Then I hear curses erupt, some form of argument....then hearts are broken and regrets just feels the room till it get too stuffy for them so the part ways..... Too late. I've listened to a conversation between a father ad his son/ daughter and the son lies to him about everything in order to escape from his father's wrath,.... Lolz. Like my father will always say: sin begats sin. Example: Lucas asks his father for money, telling him that the money is to be used for his school fees, but having an intention to use it for something else which he did; two months later he really needed money to pay his fees and couldn't ask his father so he stole from him instead: remember..... Sin begats sin. His father finds out about the missing money and asked him.... He bluntly said he doesn't even know his dad got money around. Wow!! Lucus has successfully put himself into much trouble, now my question is: what stopped him from stating his real mission in the first place??.
Hear me folks, you could be so successful in lying, you could even get an award for being able to sustain your relationship with your parents, friends or spouse for a very long time but lemme ask you this: do you know what trust is all about??.
Trust according to my dictionary is the belief that somebody/ something is good, sincere and honest and will not try to harm or trick you...... I'm smiling... It's as though the dictionary just decided to favour me because its mine, maybe you should check your dictionary if it actually support your lies.
Now tell me, how could you ever say these..... Can my dad just trust me for once?, could my wife just trust me and stop suspecting my every moves?, can my fiance or fiancee just trust me?... Hahhaahhahhahaahhaha how is that possible when you've been lying to him/ her, lying to mum and dad, how will you even trust yourself, you might even start disbelieving yourself and just have a feeling the other person doesn't trust you.
You might be tempted to ask me at this point..... If I tell him/her/ them the truth won't they be mad at me? Won't they loss their trust in me?, won't it make me feel weak?, now my answer as a typical African who answer questions with questions is...... If he/ she/ they finds out the truth after much covering of lies with other lies, won't it hurt then more?, won't it make the degree of anger greater? Won't questions like... Why didn't you tell me the truth be asked? And then you will start hearing .... If you had told me, I would have forgiven you, I should have given you the money, you didn't have to lie for it, and worst of all is when you hear, you have ruined everything, I've lost my trust in you. There you see marriages broken, friendship broken, family relationship and love shattered.
I'm speaking as a young lady, I prefer you hurt me with the truth, than cook up some lies to keep me calm and under your charm.
Another aspect is addressed to parents, parents who try to hide things from their children ( especially useful information), sometimes the children hear about those things from others and when they ask, you gather the guts to still lie to them about it...... I'm sorry to say this, I know it hurts you so badly but trust me..... The more you hide it, the farther we are from believing it, the more upset we tend to get and the more we loss our trust for you. All what I'm trying to say is the truth will save us all.
Now let me give you some tips, that moment where the lie is almost slipping from your lips,just think about how sweet it seems to taste, how quick it seem to come out and also try to figure out how happy, fulfilled, peaceful and relieved you will be after saying the truth even if it's going to involve the use of the words I'M SORRY.
The best is abstinence, abstain from actions that will get you into lying, if going out at odd hours or staying out would make you lie, then don't go out. If cheating is gonna make you lie, then don't cheat, if greed is gonna make you lie... Don't be covetous by doing these you save yourself the stress of lying and losing the trust you so crave to gain.
Just remember that everyone wants the truth from you and sometimes accept your lies because they feel they trust you to be sincere and honest.... Please don't break their trust with those lies.
Be truthful to me!!
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